The Gay Monogamy Coach.
The Gay Monogamy Coach podcast is hosted by the life coach, CBT practitioner, workshop facilitator and author Alan Cox.
He supports gay men in understanding the emotional, psychological, and practical aspects of transitioning from casual dating to a committed, monogamous relationship, while fostering clarity, confidence, and alignment with authentic relationship goals.
Each episode will investigate an area that surrounds monogamy and is reinforced by practical life coaching techniques.
Alan can be contacted via:
gaymonogamycoach@gmail.com
Website:
www.lifecoachingempoweringgaymen.com
Episodes
76 episodes
The “Golden Boy” Syndrome — letting go of the need to please everyone.
Many gay men spend decades being “the good one” — the reliable one, the agreeable one, the man who smooths things over and never rocks the boat. It looks like politeness. It looks like competence. It looks like success. But underneath, it often...
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Season 4
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Episode 6
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13:27
Internalized homophobia — The silent saboteur of monogamy.
Why do so many grounded, successful gay men still find themselves hesitating at the edge of the relationships they say they want? In this episode of The Gay Monogamy Coach, Alan Cox explores one of the most overlooked forces shaping mo...
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Season 4
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Episode 5
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10:44
Cognitive Reframing — Turning “I’m Alone” into “I’m Selecting.”
Cognitive Reframing — Turning “I’m Alone” into “I’m Selecting.”At a certain point, the thought “I’m alone” starts to feel less like a passing observation and more like a quiet conclusion. Not dramatic. Not overwhelm...
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Season 4
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Episode 4
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12:00
From 'Me' to 'We.'
This episode hits a nerve for so many high‑achieving gay men: the moment when independence stops feeling empowering and starts feeling… isolating. As the episode puts it, “you’ve built a lifestyle that gives you a level of freedom most peop...
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Season 4
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Episode 3
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11:30
Season 4. Episode 1. Is it too late? Dating after 50.
In this episode Alan Cox, the Gay Monogamy Coach, poses the question if dating past 50 is too late. The answer is no. He highlights the testimonies of five men who, maybe like you, thought they would never find love. Yet, through wo...
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Season 4
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Episode 1
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11:18
2. Navigsting the silence.
Season 4, Episode 2 — Navigating the SilenceIn this episode, Alan explores the quiet, disorienting space that follows the end of a long‑term relationship—the moment when life looks the same but no longer feels like yours. For many...
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Season 4
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Episode 2
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10:41
New Year, New Intentions: Designing Your Monogamy Roadmap for 2026.
New Year, New Love? Alan Cox, The Gay Monogamy Coach, shows gay professional men how to design their dream relationship in 2026! Learn to set SMART goals, break old patterns, and find lasting connection. Email empoweringgaymen@gmail.com for a f...
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Season 3
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Episode 5
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20:42
Holiday refresh.
Tired of Holiday Tension? Reconnect with Your Partner. Are the holidays straining your relationship? "Holiday Refresh" addresses the unique pressures faced by gay professional men during the festive season. Learn how t...
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Season 3
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Episode 4
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11:18
Couples at Christmas: Reclaiming joy and connection in your relationship.
Couples at Christmas: Reclaiming joy and connection in your relationship.Is the holiday season feeling more like a pressure cooker than a Hallmark movie? Join Alan Cox, The Monogamy Coach (ICF-accredited life coach, CBT practition...
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Season 3
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Episode 3
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13:14
Family tables & real talk: Staying true to you this holiday season.
Tired of holiday dinners feeling like a test of your identity? 😩 Join Alan Cox, accredited gay life coach and author of The Gay Monogamy Coach, as he dives into navigating tricky family dynamics without losing yourself. Learn practical CBT tech...
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Season 3
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Episode 2
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14:52
Conquering holiday loneliness.
Conquering holiday loneliness: A gay men's guide to thriving.Holidays stressing you out? Especially as a gay man? Feeling like everyone else has it figured out, and you're just... on the sidelines? Alan Cox totally gets i...
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Season 3
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Episode 1
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7:35
5. The Comparison Trap: Social media and relationship expectations.
Episode 5: The Comparison Trap – Social media and relationship expectations. In this powerful episode, Alan Cox, ICF-accredited life coach and CBT practitioner, explores how social media silently sabotages gay relationships by feedin...
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Season 2
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Episode 5
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17:40
4. Redefining masculinity in gay relationships.
Episode 4: Redefining Masculinity in Gay Relationships. Hosted by Alan Cox – The Gay Monogamy Coach.Are you tired of the cycle of hookups and emotionally unavailable men? Do you crave deep connection but find yourself pulling aw...
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Season 2
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Episode 4
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13:53
3. "The Fear of Commitment: What's really underneath."
"The Fear of Commitment: What's Really Underneath" If you've ever found yourself lying awake at 2 AM, your heart racing because the amazing guy you've been seeing just used the word "future" in a sentence about...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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22:29
2. "Breaking the Hookup Addiction: Understanding your patterns."
In this episode, the gay ICF-accredited Life Coach, CBT Practitioner and author Alan Cox, explores some of the reasons that are preventing gay men from achieving the committed relationship that they would like and how the hook up culture affect...
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Season 2
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Episode 2
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14:46
1. The Monogamy blueprint.
Episode SummaryIn this inaugural episode, Alan Cox introduces the concept of the "Monogamy Blueprint" - a framework for gay men to consciously design committed relationships that align with their authentic values and desires.<...
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Season 1
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Episode 1
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20:52
From Casual to Committed. Chapter 9: Planning for the future.
Welcome to ‘Empowering Gay Men the Podcast’. This is the fifth episode that marks a change from the usual format and indeed a huge move from the focus pf my work. I became an ICF-accredited Life Coach and CBT Practitioner with the a...
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Season 2
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Episode 4
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31:41
From Casual to Committed. Chapter 7: Building a Solid Foundation.
Welcome to ‘Empowering Gay Men the Podcast’. This is the fourth episode that marks a change from the usual format and indeed a huge move from the focus pf my work. I became an ICF-accredited Life Coach and CBT Practitioner with the ...
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28:21
From Casual to Committed. Chapter 5. Communication skills for connection.
Welcome to ‘Empowering Gay Men the Podcast’. This is the second episode that marks a change from the usual format and indeed a huge move from the focus pf my work. I became an ICF-accredited Life Coach and CBT Practitio...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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28:03
From Casual to Committed. Chapter 3. The mindset shift.
Welcome to ‘Empowering Gay Men the Podcast’. This is the second episode that marks a change from the usual format and indeed a huge move from the focus pf my work. I became an ICF-accredited Life Coach and CBT Practitio...
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Season 2
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Episode 2
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19:39
From Casual to Committed. Chapter 1: Understanding your relationship goals.
Welcome to ‘Empowering Gay Men the Podcast’. Today marks a change from the usual format and indeed a huge move from the focus pf my work. I became an ICF-accredited Life Coach and CBT Practitioner with the aim of working with just g...
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Season 2
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Episode 1
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13:20
Embracing aging with grace.
Welcome to the podcast ‘Empowering Gay Men’ hosted by ICF-accredited Life Coach, Alan Cox. This podcast is a recording of the audiobook ‘Proud Declarations. Daily Affirmations for Gay Men’ my latest book. ...
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Season 1
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Episode 61
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23:48
Creating your affirmation manifesto.
Welcome to the podcast ‘Empowering Gay Men’ hosted by ICF-accredited Life Coach, Alan Cox. This podcast is a recording of the audiobook:‘Proud Declarations. Daily Affirmations for Gay Men’ my latest book. T...
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Season 1
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Episode 61
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22:36
